Is this cultural or simply part of human DNA? We seem to continually repeat our mistakes over and over again. And unfortunately, I see this both on a national and international level as well as in my own micro-world.
When that whole generation had passed away, another generation came after them who didn’t know the Lord or the things that he had done for Israel. . . . [And] then when the leader died, they would once again act in ways that weren’t as good as their ancestors’, going after other gods, to serve them and to worship them. They wouldn’t drop their bad practices or hardheaded ways. [Judges 2:10, 19, CEB]
The learnings from one generation to another are not happening. Parents are not telling or did not tell their children about the work of God in their lives in an authentic way; instead, they pass this job to Sunday Schools and Vacation Bible Weeks. In my mind, not only do we fail to tell the Bible stories, we a) water them down to make them PG and b) we don’t personalize them. Every story has a message for humanity. Every story has a message for me and my family. The Bible is not Disney World.
Miracles require effort and devotion, faith and trust. They require accessibility and openness.
I know some people have disagreed with me about telling our children about my past, particularly the darker side, but I have always felt it was important for them to know that I am a different person today because of my faith, and that essentially, my lifestyle before Christ would have led very quickly to illness and death.
But I also think about our church and how we depend so heavily on our charismatic pastor and we are not raising up leaders to serve with him so that we don’t follow the footsteps of the Israelites who only succeeded while a particular leader was in place. It is everyone’s responsibility to tell the story, to walk the walk, to lead and train and grow. As the pastor tells his story, we must also tell our own.
One of the ways to do this is mentoring (or discipleship). I have generally avoided this practice because it sounds so daunting, to take on a tenderfoot on the journey, to help someone else grow, to embrace him/her as family. I’m already struggling with my own adult children after all, how can I take on another, and what if I fail? But here’s the truth: all I have to do is “bring them along” when I go and do. I can’t pretend to be more than I am (nor should I assume I am less). New believers learn by being around old believers. New leaders step up when they watch old leaders in every day life, every day challenges, every day decisions, every day blunders.
Jesus didn’t turn on the leadership persona or the faith role just when the disciples were around. He lived and breathed what he knew. He healed because he could. He told stories because they meant something to him. He expressed mercy and grace because that was part of his genetic code.
We do not have to be infallible to demonstrate love and grace. In fact, authenticity goes farther. Mistakes confessed give hope to those who believe they are not worthy or that they are “too late” to change or that they can’t change. Our frailty revealed is courage demonstrated.
Generations ahead are depending on us now.
This may be the best thing you’ve written, Irmgarde. But, since I haven’t read every single day, I really can’t go that far. Let’s just say I ‘clicked’ with you on every level. Thank you for the affirmation about being honest with your children. My husband was always against it when I would answer their teenage questions honestly. He thought they would use it as permission to imitate my behavior, whereas I believed that I could put the “Here’s why I wouldn’t do it again” or “Why I wish I hadn’t” spin on it. Of course, I never actually volunteered anything, either. I see my daughters now doing the same with their children.
Also, in my ministry with Community Bible Study, our mission, secondary to “making disciples of Jesus Christ … thru in-depth Bible study available to all,”
is to build up leaders. Of course we need leaders within CBS to work with adults and children, but our focus remains the training of leaders who will leave CBS after a sojourn with us and take the skills and new confidence in Christ they have learned with us and return to their churches (or families) eager to lead there. And, so, I just wanna’ say a great big “Amen!” Keep up the great work you do ,,, just by being you.
Thanks so much. I appreciate your comment, you’ll never know how much.
Irmgarde Brown
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